It’s amazing, isn’t it. Baby clothes can seem so inexpensive when compared with the sort of money you’re used to spending on grown-up clothes. But when you’re pregnant, you’ll realise just how much money that little person growing inside you is going to cost.
Because they grow pretty quickly, and their clothes get dirty pretty quickly (especially if they have reflux), and before you know it you’ve got eight packs of babygrows in the washing machine and you baby’s just wearing a nappy.
You’ll need a lot of the basics, but what are the basics? What can you get by without, and what does your baby really need?
It’s very tempting to buy lots of very cute outfits, but if your budget won’t stretch to that then concentrate on the basics:
- A going-home outfit to put in your hospital bag
- Vests
- Long-sleeve tops
- Soft trousers (much easier to change than tights for girls)
- Babygrows
- Sleepsuits
- Baby swimwear if you plan on introducing your little one to the water (and disposable swim nappies)
- Winter coat/snowsuit
- Hat (for Winter, and one for summer preferably with a flap at the back to cover their neck)
- Gloves/scratch-mits
- Soft booties (don’t buy shoes until your baby can walk – babies get a lot of sensory information from their feet and putting them in shoes is tantamount to tying their hands behind their backs, plus they can restrict growth and become uncomfortable).
You’ll also need a cot, but initially your baby should be in your room for the first six months to reduce the risk of cot-death. If your room won’t fit a cot into it, then buy a crib or Moses basket. Beware that most Moses baskets won’t last until your baby is six months because most babies are too big for them by that age, so a crib is a better investment.
If you’re borrowing a cot/crib, buy a new mattress and make sure it fits properly to avoid the risk of your baby getting stuck down the sides. Get adequate bedding too, but make sure you remember to put your baby toe-to-end of the cot and put any blankets you use tucked under the end of the mattress to avoid them slipping over your baby’s face.
Don’t bother with a changing table – you’ll use it for a week or so and then end up using a changing mat on the floor. Everyone does.
Get a chest of drawers, and unless you want to be trailing up and down stairs twenty times a day, put it in your sitting room so that you can change your baby downstairs.
Buckets that you can use to store dirty nappies in special bags seem like a good idea – but who wants dirty nappies hanging around? Babies don’t often poo in the night, so you’re not likely to need to store dirty nappies until morning – just buy some cheap nappy liners and sling them in the bin outside.
Get a comfy chair for your room or the nursery – especially if you’re breastfeeding. Choose one with arm rests as this is the most comfortable thing when feeding your little one.
Getting a comfy chair reduces the need for a breastfeeding support pillow, which tend to be too bulky and inflexible to get really comfy with anyway.
You’ll need a baby monitor. Get a good one that doesn’t crackle or have a lot of interference. Don’t place a monitor too close to your baby’s cot because there is a very real risk that the wire can be a strangulation hazard.
Get the best laundry system you can afford. Biggest drum on a washing machine; most settings on a dryer (most baby clothes will shrink if placed in a dryer that’s too hot).
Buy as many muslin squares as you can carry. These are useful for putting under your baby’s bottom and back during a change on a cold plastic change mat (which you’ll also need) to keep them warm, and to mop up any spills. They’re also useful for everything at every stage of your baby’s development (I still use mine, and my ‘baby’ is nearly six years old now) – drying slides of dew in the morning; mopping up spills at dinner time; wiping noses; making breastfeeding discrete in public.
If you’re planning on breastfeeding, get some nursing bras fitted when you’re about 7 months pregnant. Get at least three: one for the wash, one to wear and one in the wardrobe. And buy plenty of breast pads.
You’ll also need maternity pads because you won’t believe how much you will bleed after delivering your baby. It’s not something you get told normally.
Get a baby bath but it doesn’t have to be expensive; and your baby just needs warm water in the early days (using anything else increases the chances of dry skin and eczema). Choose towels with hoods, but try to find rectangular ones rather than square ones, as they will last until your baby is much bigger.
Invest in a good thermometer, because a good part of your child’s babyhood will be taken up by ailments and colds – and by a never-ending worry that your baby has a temperature.
Decide whether you want to do disposable or re-usable cloth nappies and stock up (typically your baby will use about six per day for the first few weeks, so stock up in the weeks before you deliver by buying a pack or two a week – but don’t just get newborn sizes because if you have a large baby, they won’t fit for long!).
The best cream for keeping babies’ bottoms dry and soft is one containing zinc. Don’t go for sudacrem as it is antiseptic and drying – use it only if your baby develops nappy-rash (although metanium is better for that anyway).
Other big-ticket items you’ll need will be a car seat and a pram. Best advice I can offer is to choose a pram that a) you can lift and b) lets your baby face you, because they develop much quicker intellectually and emotionally with a lot of eye contact. Choose a car seat that you can carry (if you can’t lift it comfortably when you’re pregnant then don’t get it). Don’t keep your baby in a car seat if you can avoid it, it’s far better for them if you transport them in a sling or in their pram, so don’t bother with a travel system (because as soon as your baby is about two months old, they’re too heavy to carry around in the car seat anyway).
Finally, you’ll have tons to carry round with you, whether you breast or bottle feed. So lighten the load by getting some of those empty travel toiletry containers and decanting creams into them rather than cart around big pots. You’ll thank me for it.